There are times when life is just socking you in the face. I’m talking about the days you’re so overwhelmed with anxiety, grief, and stress it’s hard to even think straight and it is difficult to accept the reality of your situation.
I have been there, friends. I have experienced great loss and grief. I am talking about the death of my loved ones, the people most dear to me. Sometimes, i still wonder how i have coped and survived the soul wrenching grief, but the truth is, grief never goes away totally because the memories are all you hold on to, it mostly never fades and the void the loss creates is so unfathomable. It is really deep and you are just trying to crawl up to a basic level of emotional stability. TIME heals, it is a gradual process, go at your own PACE!
💥Before I continue, I have a mantra for you:
👉🏿Whatever your situation is, YOU are not your circumstances.📌
Even if the situation is from the loss of a loved one, mistake or misjudgment you made. Even if the situation has been going on for weeks/months/years. Even if you can’t see any solutions right now. You are not your circumstances.
When you’re in the middle of something terrible, all of the facts, feelings, people, shame, blame, anger, mistakes, dread, and sorrow get impossibly entangled. It’s hard to see yourself as separate from the bullshit you’re dealing with, but grab on to that one inch of yourself that can find the truth in these words.
" YOU are not your circumstances", and hold on for dear life.📌
💥 Here are some coping strategies for when everything is going dark....👇🏿
📍DON'T BE AFRAID TO FEEL IT-
Let yourself cry. Don’t be afraid of your grief, fear, sadness, and disappointment coming up and out. It is OK to be afraid, to let yourself feel the depths of your emotions. On top of the original feelings you are dealing with, It is layered on resistance to feeling those feelings. And it may make life even heavier if you avoid or numb your emotions.
The only way to get to the other side of your sadness, fear, and anger is to allow your legitimate feelings (and all your feelings are legitimate) to express themselves — that way they can move through your resistance. Otherwise, they get knotted up and create all kinds of bottlenecks in your system and cause much bigger problems like hopelessness, depression, powerlessness, anxiety, and loss of motivation/creativity.
Sometimes the feelings are so deep and heavy that you’re afraid to let yourself feel the full depth of them for fear you won’t come back up. Sometimes you DO need other people to support you through to the other side. A friend, sibling, therapist, coach, family member. Don’t be afraid to say, “I need help through this. Tell someone you trust that : I need to touch base with you every day until I come out on the other side.” know that asking for help within your pain is a sign of strength.
■ Do not isolate yourself! Do what makes you happy, prioritize your needs, honour your healing journey ✨️ ♥️
Be extra good to yourself. Prioritize your selfcare, self-love and Acceptance. Turn to God for grace, comfort and healing. Dwell in praises, meditation and practice gratitude, even in your grief/pain, there is something to be grateful for, so focus on those positive things that will give you hope and meaning to life again.
Stop trying to “fix” things when everything is not within your control. Focus on what you can control, put your trust in God, be prayerful, play music that will be comforting and soul lifting (i do this a lot), Let things work themselves out, and be reminded to breathe through it all.
💥 I sincerely, hope you find strength, solace, comfort and relief very soon, please draw strength from the promises of God for your life.
May God grant everyone that is grieving the fortitude to bear the loss, may the souls of our loved ones find rest in Christ Jesus.
❗️Please reflect on these bible verses:
1 Thessalonians 4:13–18
Please share this message to as many people as possible. Many people are hurting 💔 and needs some words of kindness ✨️ 💛 💕
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